Tomorrow is our 3rd wedding anniversary! In some ways it is hard to believe that it has been 3 years (my hairstylist seemed impressed with 3 years “in this day and age”) and in other ways it feels like it’s been so much longer (in a good way). We have been together for almost 7 years, which far surpasses our previous relationships. We have been such a big part of each other’s lives already, both by the nature of our relationship and by the percentage of our lives that we have spent together so far. Sometimes when I think of all of our experiences so far and the things we’ve been through together, I think we’ve already survived so much and created a lifetime of memories.
Thinking toward the future about when we will have been married 10, 20, 50 years seems so surreal in some ways, but I can’t imagine my life any other way. It will be crazy when we have been together longer than the time before we met! I think of marriage as a partnership, friendship, and love that continues to develop over time, and it’s a pretty amazing thing to spend the majority of your life loving the same person, becoming that person who knows them best and having someone who knows you almost as well as they know themselves. When you’ve made a lifetime commitment to someone and each year you get closer to fulfilling that lifetime, it’s like your life becomes inextricable from theirs (again, in a good way).
J and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary at a beautiful hotel in the mountains not too far from where we live. It was a very romantic and special weekend. Last year we went to dinner and took a trip to Las Vegas within a couple weeks of the date (it was unrelated to our anniversary though). So far we haven’t discussed what we’ll do this year. I said from the beginning that I wanted to make our first anniversary special and then every 5 years I’d like to celebrate in a bigger way (e.g., a trip, nice gifts). So this year, I am perfectly happy with dinner or going to a movie. The important part is spending quality time with J and acknowledging the day that marks the happiest day of my life thus far.